Description

This species of flying monkeys is often used by the narcissist to carry out their manipulative agenda without fully understanding the consequences of their actions. They may be misled or manipulated into believing false information or participating in harmful behavior on behalf of the narcissist.

Ekho's Experience

There were a few of these women in my Church. I noticed that two women (Beth and Marissa) – both of whom I had been on very good terms with for years – suddenly defriended me on Facebook and looked at me with almost hate in their eyes when I returned to church.

I am not quite sure what my narcissist or his flying monkeys told these women, but it was enough for them to forget our years of friendship, unfriend me, and give me the cold shoulder without even asking my side of the story. I guess it slipped Marissa's mind the times we attended each other’s children’s birthday parties, or the time that I offered her my home to work in for a week while their kids were enrolled in a camp near my house to ease her commute, or the time I drove an hour plus one way on a school night to talk at her kids’ cub scout event about women veterans.

And I guess Beth forgot about the times I offered her rides and money because she needed both, or the time one of her cats died and I helped to arrange an emergency funeral for her beloved pet. Whatever my narcissist and/ or his first wife/ flying monkey told them usurped years of my kindness. This can feel like an overwhelming betrayal, but ultimately, I truly believe we are better off without these fair-weather friends in our lives.

Ultimately, finding out who these two were saved me time, energy, and money.